“The past and the future lives inside the present’s energy
So show a little tenderness now and love flows endlessly
Time is on a loop like the sun, that’s it’s destiny” - Riz Ahmed
Time is not linear. There have been many moments when I have been shown that but wasnt entirely sure because my perception gets warped a lot. For much of my adult life I have experienced what I called "broken glass brain" on a regular basis where all of a sudden the reality of life would overwhelm me and my thinking would shatter into a thousand pieces. Sometimes it would feel like each of those pieces could hang there in the air in slow motion, while my human vessel panics frantically and cuts myself on the sharp edges. Until eventually a few days later, as if by magic, the pieces glue themselves together again just as fast as they'd shattered.
These days I understand this to be an autistic meltdown. It is painfully excruciating and scary. The world (and time) as we know it completely disappears from view. But I realise now that what underpins these moments and sensations is the same thing that underpins the many beautiful mindblowing moments I've had during connection building, creative activities or sex where my brain explodes and time stands still, speeds up or goes on forever. In each of these moments, the painful or the ecstatic ones, I believe what I am experiencing is both infinity and nothingness. Its almost like this world disintegrates and my consciousness is floating around in the dimension above us.
And in these moments it's as if my past or future selves can pass messages to me. Many of us are well versed in communicating with our past selves - for lots of us they still exist as visibly as the person in the mirror. The fear and pain that I carry from the past is present constantly, the teenager or child that came before can speak through me whenever they choose. As traumatised beings we are rarely relating with the person right in front of us.
But the future is different. Many of us don't believe people can see the future, let alone speak to it, but when I first experienced the depth of my connection with my partner I realised we are swimming in it right now.
When I simultaneously and suddenly fell in love with my anchor partner there was a moment where it felt like I saw and experienced every single layer of our existence all at once. Initially I believed the sensation was a signal of some forms of past lives. As if my cosmic being had been searching for this through past eras and other dimensions. As if we had known each other for a millenia on a cellular level. What I have come to believe now though, as I unlock more wisdom about the way time moves, is that in that moment I saw the entire universe forever.
As I think back to that moment the closest way I can describe it is through the metaphor of a button switch for a floor lamp in a darkened room. Its as if my foot pressed momentarily on that button and it lit up everything in a fraction of a second. What I saw during that illumination was my fate.
My fate to be loved wholly and purely, and from that point onwards to forever be seeking to connect with that love no matter what separates us in the years, universes and dimensions to come. Perhaps I will be stuck in an endless timeloop, replaying and re-exploring the depth and beauty of this love. If that is the case I am at peace and content. I am even content with the death or loss of the people I love as a result. When me and my partner had sex the other day it felt as if my future self had travelled back into my body to experience every layer of the person the other version of me was presently grieving many decades into the future. Knowing I did not need to fear the potential loss of the love of my life was profound. Knowing that our love and experiences exist infinitely - regardless of the direction we travel through time.
Or perhaps time is not cyclical either, but instead concurrent. And with that I could reach through the expanses of time to the ghost of my grandma, or my child as an adult, and connect and settle our souls. If this is the case I can learn to stretch out through time, reaching into the past to tell my wounded self that this love is here to stay, or my future self that I am safe and I am home.
As I hone my ability to travel through time, I discover that my broken glass brain is more a signal that I’m not in alignment with where I’m supposed to me. And as I learn to follow my instincts I am finding I can access love, connection, reassurance beyond imagination. The other day I stood on the steps of a random hotel in Amsterdam, waiting for a friend to get a taxi home, and my soul travelled into the future and felt as if I was remembering a deep sense of gratitude for the evening we had shared. What a powerful feeling to know you are exactly where you are meant to be.