This is a TLDR (too long didn’t read) version of this blog post - sharing simply the questions you might want to explore around your sex life and a set of resources and content I’d recommend!
1. What is your current sexuality?
Glossary: List of LGBTQ+ terms
Podcast: We’re having gay sex
2. What is your relationship with orgasms?
Online course: Omgyes - the science of female orgasm
Podcast: My orgasm is not just for me (this moved me to tears!)
Instagram account: Lola Jean - World champion squirter
3. What are your pleasure spots?
Podcast: Tantric intimacy (skip to 30 mins in for the guest!)
Podcast: Postpartum intimacy and sex (lot’s that might be relevant to people who haven’t been through childbirth too!)
Article: 31 erogenous zones
4. What are your yes, no’s, maybes?
Glossary: Kinkly sex dictionary (have fun exploring new language with your partner!)
Tool: Sex position finder
Book: Ethical slut (I recommend this to people even if they are monogomous as there are so many exercises simply about exploring boundaries!)
5. What are your communication needs and styles?
Video: Learning from the BDSM community - Esther Perel and Margie Nichols
Instagram account: @Michelleelman and all of her posts on Why we a rubbish at communicating boundaries
6. What heightens or dulls your senses?
Article: Intimacy and your five senses by Esther Perel
Article: Orgasmic Breath
7. What trauma have you experienced and how might surface in sex?
Instagram: Queer Sex Therapy
8. What are your fantasies and how can you interpret those?
And just for fun I absolutely LOVE this ADHD Erotica idea from @RemodeledLove